A Short Reflection on Friends

Mrs. Random and I have had much opportunity to reflect on friendships this past year. We have had the privilege of all kinds of friendships over the course of our lives, but we are both of the personality types that tend to have only a few deep friendships among the myriad of acquaintances. We like, and enjoy, lots of people, but our (OK, mine more than her’s) bandwidth for deep friendships is limited. It takes time to develop those friends, and they mean much to us, even as it seems we have fewer in each season of life.

Since we are in a season between seasons as we wait for our next worship community to become clear, our friendships have been important gifts from the Lord. These are people who love us even as we imperfectly love them in return. Each one is a valuable treasure that remind us of God’s great goodness. CS Lewis reminds us of  sovereign design and work in our friendships. 

…In Friendship, we think we have chosen our peers. In reality, a few years’ difference in the dates of our births, a few more miles between certain houses, the choice of one university instead of another, posting to different regiments, the accident of a topic being raised or not raised at a first meeting—any of these chances might have kept us apart. But, for the Christian, there are, strictly speaking, not chances. A secret Master of Ceremonies has been at work. Christ, who said to the disciples, "Ye have not chosen me, but I have chosen you," can truly say to every group of Christian friends "You have not chosen one another but I have chosen you for one another." The Friendship is not a reward for our discrimination and good taste in finding one another out. It is the instrument by which God reveals to each the beauties of all the others.

The Four Loves


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